Grief = loss/separation anxiety

A few insightful excerpts from recent reading:

Grief is the (normal) human emotional response to loss. It is a common part of human experience and may produce growth. We can lose people, places, objects, relationships, and even ideas. Some losses may not be actual, but anticipated, or a perceived loss. (25) Acute grief looks remarkably similar to a classic anxiety attack (same physical symptoms). It is similar to the feelings felt in fear. In grief one fears the loss of self through separation, and experiences separation anxiety. (28)

It is a function of attachment. It can be understood also as our emotions catching up with our reality. (38) The more we can love the more we can grieve. Our abnormal attachments show up (caused by an improper process of  grieving) as permanent emotional detachment or heightened attachment. (30)

R. Scott Sullender, “Grief and Growth: Pastoral Resources for Emotional and Spiritual Growth” Paulist Press, 1985.

Have you lost or grieved anything lately?

Feel free to leave your thoughts or comments about grief or loss.


3 responses to “Grief = loss/separation anxiety

  1. When my mom died, after the funeral I experienced pain and numbness in my legs and a constant feeling of vertigo (feeling of unreality and like I was drunk). The muscles in my legs were knotted like rocks! At first I thought I had a problem with my circulation, unrelated to my grief. It was the fist time I’d every had physical grief symptoms and they were not at all what I expected.

    • I’m blessed by you sharing this.

      It’s amazing how we can be affected by loss. I had breathing problem when it came to losing my dad. Since I had asthma, I thought it was a bout of that. But, no. My nervous system, mind, and body, was coping poorly with the extreme stress. I couldn’t *think* my way out of it… I needed extra help. The mind-body connection is more real then we realize!

  2. I forgot to check the box!